Don’t Let Perfection Get In The Way Of Connection

In 2022, I got to lead a workshop for the Kellogg School of Management annual alumni reunion – a much anticipated event after two years of delay due to COVID. I arrived for the weekend prepared and excited to speak to a room full of people again, and they probably weren’t shocked to see me sporting a deep purple dress for the occasion (after all, deep purple is Kellogg’s brand). Upon closer inspection, my audience may have noticed that the dress was actually not perfectly constructed. The seams were not quite right and the hem was not straight in several places. It may seem strange that I would choose this dress on a day when I knew I would be in the spotlight and interacting with many people.

It’s not because I suddenly disregarded everything I knew about fashion. I chose the dress because my daughter made it and it happened to be the perfect color for Kellogg. My daughter was only 9 when she lovingly stitched the pieces of fabric together for me. For some reason, she chose deep purple and even though it was not perfect, it was showtime, so I went with it.

I chose not to agonize over this decision because it actually demonstrates exactly how I want you to feel about sharing your story. As you’re constructing your stories, notice when the occasion is fitting and offer what you have to your audience. Don’t let perfection get in the way of connection. It may not be perfect, but it’s showtime….so go with it! They will feel the intention that you put into your creation, and overall it will probably be more moving than if you offered something perfectly polished.

To all my fellow moms who are reading this who will probably be receiving their own collection of curiously constructed gifts this upcoming holiday season – I hope you enjoy the family time and sweet intentions of your children! May you never devalue the stories you pass on to the next generation.

Do you have a story that is a work in progress? Don’t let the desire for perfection get in the way of sharing your story. We can help you iron out the edges at Story Lab — our complimentary virtual small group coaching session. It’s a great way to practice your next story in a safe environment and ask questions about applying leadership storytelling to your business context.